All About Relationships (3:18-4:1)
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All About Relationships (3:18-4:1)

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The new life Jesus gives us impacts all our relationships. Are you a husband? Wife? Child? Parent? Boss? Employee? If Jesus has given you new life, He has something new for you. Tony Holloman joins Pastor Kevin for this message.

Today we start in our series or continue in our series through the book of Colloshians. We've been in this book for quite a while now and it's been a exciting kind of shift into what Paul is telling us in the book of Colloss and so if you have your Bible, I encourage you to get there. My goal in the next handful of minutes is to tea up somebody very special and important to me to preach the bulk of the message this morning and I'm going to come back and wrap it up and we've going to close with a worship song at the end. So that's the breast of the plan for this morning and I'll say more about him and just a second. But we're going to be in Collossians chapter three today and one of the values that we have a connectors churches we believe that the Bible is the most relevant and the most helpful book for today. And you're like, what in the world does that mean? Right, like last couple weeks we've been studying what it meant to put our old self to death, our old nature, our old sinful self, and put that stuff away and put on the new self. And again you're like right, so the old self was like the sinful the the set, Paul talked about the sensual sins and the interpersonal sins, the sexual sensual sins, the interpersonal sins, and and Paul says these are specific things in your life that you should put to death, to have nothing to do with, to kill it, to remove it, to take it away, because Jesus as died for your sin, he had paid the penalty for those things and he gives us something that Paul calls a new life. We are to put on the new so we live differently as a result of what Jesus has done for us. We don't try to live differently in order to earn God's blessing and God's acceptance and God's forgiveness. No, he's already done those things and so therefore it character we are. Our life should be different, our life is lived out differently, and you're like, what does that look like? Right? Well, and someone living in the newness of life has tender hearted, mercy, hindness, they're humbled, they're gentle, they're patient, they forgive other people, they love people and they're at peace. Do those words characterize your life? And again you're like, okay, those are big concepts, you know, but we could talk about love for the end of time and we still wouldn't be able to wrap our brains completely around it. And so what Paul does next, and what pastor Tony's gonna Stare with us today, is he looks at every single one of you, of one of us, and he just looks at your life and he's like, and I'm asking you this question, you can raise your hand or see. Any of you a husband? Raise your hand. There go. Okay. Is Anyone of you a wife? Got A couple? Right? is any of you a parent? Is Your is any of you children? Everyone should raise your hand. You're all children at some point. Right. Does any of you have people that work for you? Your employers? Does any of you work for somebody? They pay you? Right, they hired you. You did an interview. Okay, it's a silly illustration, but Paul basically says, I'm talking to you. This new life is for you in your situation. This isn't some abstract concept, this is helpful, relevant stuff for your life, for your relationships that you live in every single moment of every single day. Like this is just a part of your life and Jesus has something new you to experience. And so he starts off by saying how wives are to submit to their husband, and that word is a is a controversial term...

...nowadays. What does it mean to submit? And I think it's really a beautiful a beautiful term, because one of the people that submitted the most was Jesus. He submitted to the will of the father. And so when wives submit to their husband's as Paul tells us in Colossians three, here you're really emulating and the example Jesus set in an an incredible powerful way. And then he, Paul said, as to husbands, that it we are as husbands. I'm a husband who love our wives. You're like, well, women, wives got a submit. That sounds terrible, and men got a love, and and that sounds, you know, so good, you know. But then he clarifies in its love, your wife has Christ love the church? And how did Jesus ultimately love his church? He died for so women, wives are supposed to submit and husbands are supposed to die. I don't know which one's better or worse. Right, they're just they're equally following God's design and plan for marriage. And you, yeah, physical death and you know might be a thing, but what about dying to your own desires and wants so that your wife could exceed and do what she feels like God's leading her to do? Goes both ways. There's a pastor that you might know, Andy Stanley. He mentions the phrase that marriage often times is a submission competition. Who can submit to the other the best right? That's not one lording over the other or controlling the other or manipulating the other. Those are results from this in nature that happened. We read about those of genesis three. It's about submitting the one another, loving one another, lifting other, each other up on the other thing that we run into here is father's says don't aggravate your children. That's a very, very practical command right. That could also be for parents. And then then it talks about this masters and slave thing, which again is a controversial hard being the talk about in today's world. What is actual does that mean? What did Paul mean when he said that? But it's important to remember that in the first century, most people in the Roman Empire Worse. Slaves are large percentage of people and it was just the way their economy function it's the way that it the it was, and what's incredible about it is what Paul tells us in these letters that he wrote about what Jesus did. It basically set the ground work to remove any abuse of this economic way of life. This when you tell a master that the slave is the same level as you, that you have no, you know, intrinsic value over this person, he's your brother, this stir like it changes everything. That's really what the Gospel did, what Jesus did, what what Paul was writing about. That did for for slavery as we know it today. And today you might think about it as your employer employee relationship. You know who's doing the job. How do they tell you what to do? Your boss, you know, are all that good stuff, but everyone has a role. It's life and we're whether you're a husband, the wife, lawyer, employee, a parent or a child. God has a role for your life and a design for your life and as a new creation in Christ, you can live into that role and it's a role that is done in relationship other people, though sometimes we like to say that it's all about relationship. They is a great sermon that illustrates that fact. Your relationship with your spouse, matters, your relationship with your children, madder, your relationship with the people at work. Madder and Jesus wants to come into...

...your life give you a new life and a new way to interact with those people. And what's incredible, and I think Pastor Tony has done an incredible job with this, he was my youth pastor growing up and it's been many, many, many years since he's been my youth pastor. He but we have a lot of memories together. I would show up to youth group late just for the message because I was trying to figure out what I believed and why I believed it, and he was there to reach the word and was really helpful in that. Wouldn't be standing up here today if it wasn't him. And then there was another impactful time of my life where I showed up to a friendly's and sat across the table from him and just basically told him what I thought God was doing in my life and he didn't look at me strange maybe a little bit. I don't or even remember, but he was like, well, he didn't say it in this terms, but this is what he did. I'll connect you to guy's next step for your life. I mean he could have put up a wall, he could have responded very differently. He could have looked at me silly or laughed or whatever. That all right, and again that was a why I'm doing what I'm doing and if anybody has ever been touched by anything that I've done, that's back our to your so I'm excited to welcome Tony Holloman to the stage. Come on up, Tony, just want to get there. We go, give him a hand. Just very thankful. Yeah, use one of those. Those they've been around. They drive up from Delaware every so often and where's this? Appreciate appreciate their support and I'm excited that he's going to there with us or today. There we go. All right, go get him. Good Morning. So good to be here this morning. It's always good to open God's word. Yeah, it's been a it's been a journey and I've been watching. Even if I'm not here, I've been listening online. I try to catch the morning services brother Denny last week again, Colossians is a great book. It's a wonderful tool and again God wants us to realize he didn't leave us at life to do it alone or to figure it out ourselves. And so often, you know, we get into the world and and that's kind of what starts to happen. We think, you know, we got to help God out, and really God says, no, I'm here to help you out and here's my plan. And Colossians is one of those books letters. Again, we need to understand it was a letter written to a church and it was to give direction and it's been covered over the last couple weeks and I don't want to go backwards, but I do have to go backwards a little bit because again, the beginning we have to remember that the purpose of a lot of the writings of Paul were to one as was brought up the last couple weeks, was he was he was warning the Church of people that would come in and try to get them to go back the wrong way, to follow their owld ways of life, to do their own thing, to to bring in their traditions, to bring in all the stuff that they were doing in the past and Christ and Paul says you can't do that. And the illustrations last couple weeks Kevin had a shirt and he took a shirt off and it was. He put off. The old man put it away. Brother do any last week did the same thing. He took his shirt I'm not getting my shirt off today, brother. Okay, I'm leave my shirt on. Okay, I got an different illustration, but he took his shirt off into the very same thing and then he covered it. Okay, he covered it. No clicker here. There it is. There's the...

...clicker and there's the battery. No batteries, no clicker. And we understand that. That that when we came to Christ, Christ and any last week put something over it. It covered it, and that was again that the picture of Jesus washing US clean, making us wholly, setting us apart for God's purpose. Now and God sees us through the the blood of Christ though, the washing of our sins away, not that we've done anything to earn it, to save ourselves our goodness, our works again, the Bible again, if we go to the scriptures, it says are our works. There's filthy rags before God. So when we come to this portion of scripture, like Kevin mentioned, it's it is a loaded scripture because their terms today that people don't like, we struggle with and so before we actually look at those verses because some of you again, as Kevin read and shared briefly, those four components are. There's in there for relationships. When you look at the relationships right before we get into it, you have denny and and Kevin, over the last couple weeks have developed a relationship, your relationship with God. Primary, first, important, most thing. You got to get this right and so often in the world we're trying to get this right, but we're fallen, we're broken people. So the most important thing is and that's why Paul says, you know, you can't go backwards. I want you to move forwards. Put off the old, put on the new. What does he what does he mean by that? How do I do this? God doesn't say. Well, Kay, figure it out. God says, I've given you a love letter. I given you my word. And we're told through scriptures, other portions of Scriptures says to study, study, study the word of God to be able to discern what is right and wrong, truth from error. Where do we get that? We get that through the teaching of God's word. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth in the life. No Man comes to the father but by me. Why would we think we could then live life on our own? If he brings us to what life is, then don't you think God would give us the direction and how to do this thing called life together? You See, you have the relationships. You have husband, wife, you have are you have wife, husband. The way it's mentioned it's interesting. It's it's wife, husband, it's husband wife, it's children, parents, it's servants, masters, it's Master's servants. But before he actually look at that because again, like I said, some of these terms today send off red flags for a lot of people where it's submission, obedience, surrender, their words like what? We step back and go why, I've got my right, I've got my own will. I can't I be my own identity? Yes, to a degree, but then no to a degree. And that's where we need to before we jump into those specifics. We really have to again put on the Bible tells us to put on the mind of Christ. Okay, so what I like to do before we actually start moving into those verses, if you just real quick, if you have your bibles here watching online again, the most important thing is not what I say, and Pastor Kevin would say the same thing, and brother Denny would say the say it's not what's important what we say as much as what the scripture says, how the scripture directs our lives. So in Genesis, if we go right back to the beginning, and Kevin alluded to that, in Genesis and with the lights I will show my age, will put on my classes so I can read clearly. It says here in Genesis, chapter two of verse seven, it says and the Lord God formed man out of the dust of the ground and breathe into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living soul. We have to start right in the beginning because again, if we don't put on the...

...right mindset and we don't see things from God's perspective, this is not man's idea. So when we come to Colossians, it's not Paul's idea on how wives are supposed to submit to their husbands and husbands are supposed to like. This is God's idea. God created everything in the beginning and when he created he said it is good and it is right and it was to it was to produce godly offspring. It was to take care of the garden that God put them in. But we know, and we don't have the time to go through the whole process, but we know man had sinned, man had stepped away from God's plan, and since then man has been stepping away from God's plan and that's why we live in a broken world and that's why we have the struggles in our marriages, in our families even today, because we we enter into the relationship, sometimes bringing God into the relationship, but then we put them aside because we try to operate the way we want or how we feel, instead of going back to the book and taking the directions from God. You see, because then God doesn't say just you know, he made him a living soul. And again for time. Verse Fifteen, it says, and God looked our God, I'm sorry, the Lord God looked the man and put him in the garden of eating, to dress it and to keep it. And the Lord God commanded the man saying of every tree of the guard thou shalt freely eat, but of the tree in the not, but the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it. From the day that Thou eatest, thou shalt surely die. And the Lord God said it is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a help me verse twenty one. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept and he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh and instead of instead, therefore, and the rib which the Lord God had taken from Man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, now this is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she was taken out of man. Is who we have, God, who who'd created everything. And again, when we get into the relationship aspect, like brother Kevin said earlier, you know, it is not where you submit, because I say submit, it's it is a dual submission. But the reality is is even in our world we have to be careful that our submission isn't just one to another, because that's still broken. Your submission is is this way. First, my submission is to God and it's not based on the other person. It really is submission, trying to compete, submissionly to each other, to help each other become all that God wants us to be, not so one could be higher than the other not, but we would fulfill the will of God as human beings. And what's interesting about the marriage relationship, and again our world is trying to destroy it, is the fact that the Bible says that there's there's a uniqueness in marriage. And isn't interesting that one of the illustrations that that God uses as we move into the new testament about about marriage, he uses the picture of Christ and the church, the bride and the bridegroom. Is that for a reason? Absolutely. Do we really understand that? So, if we allow marriage to be destroyed, why do you think the world now is attacking the church? Because we're getting away from God's design, we're getting away from God's purposes and what God says it should be, and we're taking on the approach of this is what man thinks or how man feels we should operate because, after all, we can't do this. And you're right, we can't do this. God can do this. God can do this and as we move forward here,...

...it's important for us to realize that again, God will do this. When we come to Colossians now and you look at those verses again, I know a lot of people they they want to pick and choose what they want to read in scripture. But again, when we come to Colossians, chapter three, right, we look at those verses and again we're picking up in the middle of each middle of the chapter, basically the end of the chapter, and we have to keep in mind what was talked about last week, what the earlier scripture says about putting on and putting on, because now it's preparing you. So we've got the first two chapters are warning us not to take in the things of the world allowed to come creep back in. We're to put off, but we're also to put on. And just go through your Bible and look at what the Bible says about putting off and putting on. Put On, put off the old man, put on the new. You can go to Colossians, you can go to Philippians, you go to Ephesians, you can go to first, Second Corinthians, you can go all through the new you can just walk through the New Testament and you'll find where God tells us what we're to put off and he actually tells us what we're to put on and how we're to do that. And it's it's very interesting because again, when we come to these verses. A lot of us at times these words become very like a red flag. It's like Red Flag, I don't like that, I don't want to do that. That's our flesh. That's our flesh comes out really quick our old nature. And then we live in a world that bombards us with these thoughts and therefore what we do is we have to battle those thoughts. And is it interesting that God tells us in his word in Romans Chapter Twelve, verses one and two, right, he gives us directions there. He tells us how to handle that. And before we even look at that again, when you look at these verses, it says what it says. Wives submit yourselves unto your own husband's as it is fit in the Lord a specific wives submit yourself unto your own husband. There's not multiple husbands, it's unto your own husband. And we live in a world today that, again, the struggle is when we do get into the world, especially for you ladies, and especially as you get into even somebody that are in the working world, it's very carefully design that. You have to be careful that your submission priority is to your husband, because that's the primary relationship. What destroys a lot of marriages is wives start falling under submission and men start loving outside of the home and wives starts submitting to other men's authority and direction and corrupts the home. It destroys the home we don't guard ourselves, and that's why here again, at the philosophy of the world back then is no different than it is today. It's attacking the church, it's attacking God's design for every relationship that you and I have, that God says it is good. And we do we believe that? Again, in the world we live, do we believe that marriage is good, it's healthy, it's the way God designed it, or is it just a thing to do? You see, again, when we lessen what God says about and try to bring it down to man's level, we start distorting the truth of what God says. And here God's being very specific, and that's why it's interesting he gives us. He gives us these words. Right, wives, submit yourselves under your husband, to your own husband, as it is fit in the Lord husband's love your wives and be not bitter against them. Children, obey your parents. So my Bible I underline those words submit, love, obey and I have to say, okay, I have to look in the mirror and say, am I doing that? It's so easy for us...

...to want others to do that. But again, when I came to Christ I died to myself. I put off the old man and now, living under the authority of God, right submission is making a choice. The day you got saved, you repented of your sin and you basically said, God, I'm no longer going my way. I realize that my way can't save me and I'm surrendering my right, my will to you, because you are the only way that I can get to heaven. And I yield myself to you. And isn't interesting? That's kind of what if you take the marriage vows, that's what actually takes place. I died to myself for better, for words, for Richard, for poor, till death do us part. I mean, when you start contemplating all that God says about marriage, leave and cleave, leave your father and your mother and cleave to it's not a it's not a it's not a suggestion, it's a command. And so often we take God's commands and we go again. We don't want to live by rules, but yet we have to live by certain rules. And where do we get them from? God's word? You just can't do marriage anyway you like, or it won't work. And we see that in our society today because they don't see it as a covenant. They see it as a contract between man and woman. They don't see it as something that God said. This is the way it is, these are my directions, and even for parents, this is the way it's supposed to work. It's never to work where this family and this family kind of just you, kind of you become family. But they have to create their own family unit. Okay, it's very important they established because there's a new head. You think about it this way, when you raise children. How many have children? I have children. I at five. Okay, we're working through a wedding right now. Busy time. It's a great time, but you get busy with with the things of the wedding. But are your are you you? We prepare for weddings, but again, do we prepare the person, the heart, for what it's really all about? You take all this time to do all this stuff to get it just right, but are we getting this just right? This is where it starts, because again, when we come before God in a wedding ceremony. Again, it's a covenant between God and Man, but now it's not only a covenant between God and Man, it's a it's a covenant between God and Man and another person that were unifying as one. That that's a unique thing. You become one flesh. I'm still two individuals. You become one flesh. What's that all about? Have you really studied the scripture and really how that is supposed to translate into our everyday life? A lot of us just go to ceremonies, we go through the motions and it's like, okay, that's cool, and then we wonder why marriages fall apart because we're we come and vow before God, but then we attack each other because we lose the right role, we lose the perspective. I have my right, I'm tired, I've got this, you've got that, and a list goes on and and well, I'm not going to submit and nless you love and and I'm not going to love unless you submit. And I mean even but even Christians, we deal with these issues and issues. It's not a matter of if you I will, it's even if you don't I will because I'm committed to God and God commands me to live this way. Now,...

I know there are circumstances that come into playing and I wish we had time to go into some of that, but the reality is if we took God's design and said this is the way God designed and we actually tried to apply it the right way, we would get the right results. So when we look at the his passage, you know, we see these words and again it's hard for us because again the husband's to love, love like Christ loved. Again, do your study, Take Your Bible and what does that mean? I love when people say and what would Jesus do? Just like Kevin said. Well, Jesus went to the cross, he died, he sacrificed, he submitted to the will of the father to die in your place, in my place, so he could present. And this is what gets me because again, when we when we lose the reality of what goes on in earthy day life, he did it in a way so he could present to God a bride that was unspotted, that was pure. How many you ladies want to go your wedding day in a dirty dress? I don't know anybody that does you see your goal? And again, the illustration would be just like that. Right, you're going to a wedding and if you're going to the wedding on your wedding day, you're going to keep this thing unspotted. Right, it has a purpose, it's pure, it's white, it has a purpose. You're sending a message. Right, I've kept myself. I did everything I need to do. So when we go to get married, this is what we end up. Okay, purposely trying to go forward as we don't go. A bride doesn't go once she gets all dressed up, she doesn't walk out and go, okay, where's the next mud puddle I can get into? Ask a bride. Right, you know that. You just don't do it. You're looking to make the day perfect. And again. So, from the human side, yes, we do all these things, but the purpose of of the white and everything again, and that's that's the picture. The Bible uses of the your relationship with God. Jesus died so that they could present a pure and holy bride, a bride he protects, a bride he loves, a bride's willing to die for husband's men. Married or not? Are you going to be that kind of man if God draws you into that kind of relationship. Again, the Bible speaks to all of that. Some men, some women. They never get married. That's okay, Paul addresses that. But those that do choose to go down that road, this is not an option. You have to love your wife. Why? If you have to submit to your husband as unto the Lord? So you're not doing it to him. To See we do it in a way. Well, I'll love you on the conditions of wait a minute, let's think about that. God's love is unconditional. My submission is not based on your submission, and that's what would ester Kevin was alluding to. It's IT'S A it's a competition of submission to each other to help each other become better in the fact of but it's not in life. It's in building each other to be the body and bride of Christ that God wants us to be. We're to be encouraging each other to be that way. So we're supposed to be helping at you and so often. That's why the Bible says what for the Church to provoke one another. Provoke one another, that's a pretty strong word. Unto love and good works. It's not provoke one another to do evil, to settle for evil. We're supposed to challenge each other to stay white, to stay pure, to live holy. Again, that...

...doesn't save us, like brother deny pointed out last week, but we're it's supposed to motivate us to go looking to one day. Because do you really believe one day there's a marriage feast you're going to meet the Savior? There's a wedding feast, thank God that. You know what, even though, again, when we get earth the yeah, we get spotted and see, God knows that. So when we look at it from the stance set the day you got saved, you're dirty. God put on you, put you in white and Ha's the way he sees you. So positionally you're going to heaven, you're going to have in white, pure, holy, just. But while you're here on earth, we struggle with the physical, we struggle with the nature, we live in the world we live in and we sin. And isn't good that we're told in the scriptures that were to confess our sins because he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, not to save us, but so our fellowship stays close, so we understand. So when I send, I don't go. Oh, God really doesn't care because he's my best friend and you know what, he doesn't mind if I do that. No, I should be going, man, I want to keep my God, I want to stay on spotted. You've given me this unspotted beautiful thing. I'm going to keep it that way till the feast. The day you got saved, God set you apart for a holy purpose. Now are you living allowing God to purify and work in your life? Are you just waiting to some people have the mentality, and we've taught this wrongly to so many people's that will just get saved and God will fix it when Y'all get to heaven. So we live very again, we live very normal lives that make no impact for Jesus Christ. We don't show the world that, yes, we're we love the Lord and yes, even when we sin and we fall down, we show them how to forgive and we had, we had. We showed them how to restore and we show them how to love and we show them how to submit and we show them see, that's the design of the church. But if we can't do that in our homes. It'll never happen in the church because we have to put on the mind of Christ and if we don't start with that, ladies and gentlemen, again God gave us all we need through the spirit of God, who comes to live within us the moment you get saved. But then God says, you know what, I've given you my word. Okay, and you have the word of God. And with this word again, so you go to the scriptures, and I don't know about you, but I'm not that's smart at times, and I know when I use my own intelligence sometimes I get myself in trouble. So I go to scriptures and scripture says this right in Romans, cheapter twelve, one and two. I beseech you, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service, and be not what conformed to this world. Don't allow the world to press you into its mold. Okay, they knew we would stray, he would knew, God knew we would struggle with these things to this world. But be ye, transformed by the renewing of your mind. And I love this and I this is how I keep myself kind of in check, because it doesn't just stop there. It says renewing of your mind that you may prove what is that good and acceptable, and I underlined it. And that perfect will of God, not that we will be perfect, but do you believe God's will is perfect? You believe God will perform what God says he will do? Because, gang, if we don't, then we really don't trust him the way we need to. And I don't know about you, I struggle at times with with trust in God. It's at times it's like God, I can't see it and just says trust me, trust me, I can't see heaven. Trust me. Okay, Lord, where do I get my trust from? Let's play family food. How many people trust God to go to heaven out of a hundred? Survey Ding? Noboddy. We live in a world that they...

...don't agree with that stuff anymore. Gang. That's the struggle you and I are in. But we need to remember that, no matter how hard that struggle is, you and I need to go back to the scripture and say, if God said so, if God says submit, I'm going to submit. If God says love, I'm gonna love. If God says obey, I'm going to obey because again, in every one of these relationships, and I know I'm spending time on one, okay, because really it's the hub it, no matter what relationship, masters, servant. As you work through that portion of scripture, the issue first is do I have this line with God right, because then when I go to the work world or whether I'm a boss. In chapter four, verse one, which that's where this kind of concludes, he says Master, remember you have a master. There's somebody over you. Everybody wants to be the boss. Right. Just remember God is the boss. God evaluates everything. So when we come to those verses again, if we put on the mind of Christ, we see things, you and I should see things, not from an earthly perspective. We're supposed to see it from a heavenly perspective, and it's so often that's hard because I feel like I'm not being treated right or I'm being used or I'm being mistreated or they shouldn't talk to me that way. And yes, you're right, but remember wearing a broken, falling world. But does that give us the right to respond the way the world respond, or should we respond the way God would want us to respond. Again, if my model and role model is Jesus, I'm in trouble, because he went all the way to the cross. He didn't say, okay, you can, you can, you can do this and you can do this, but you're not doing this this he's surrendered to the will of God, the father. So you and I, you and I, could have heaven as our home. Wow, that's that's talk about submission, talk about love. I don't know about you, but the last I checked, when I look in the mirror, I fail greatly. God, forgive me, help me, God, to be more submission, submitting to you. So I will submit to my wife, so I will submit to my boss in the right role. I'll love my wife, I'll love my children, I'll and the list goes on. Same for the children, because if the children don't get this right, they're not going to honor and respect their parents, because they don't even realize. In that verse again, it says in it all comes back to in the Lord. Remember, this is not because you want your mom and dad's respect only or you don't want them to trust you. It's this is before God. This is before God. Lastly, as we close. Right, we're close. Real clothes in this verse again, as you would read these verses. I would challenge you to take the time to each week as as Collossians has been shared, and I've been doing this and I'm not here, but I've taken every week and I go back to the beginning of Collossians and I read it through again and I'm trying to put it all back together. What I hear, what's been shared. God challenge my heart. What? What did I need to learn differently today? That brother Denny said, our pastor Kevin said that that I need to look at in me. So I live right. So I am the person that you want me to be, God, because I want to. I want I'm trying my best to stay white and holy and pure. Again, the danger in our world today is, yes, God is loving and God is forgiving, but God still commanded us to be holy. Be Ye, holy, for I am holy. Be set apart, be on spotted. Do we actually walk through the world not trying to get caught up into sins of the world or allowing our flesh or the temptations to draw us in? You do. Do not battle with that. We ought to every day of our life. I get up every morning, God help me, to make sure I see things properly, I listen to...

...things properly, because, again, if I'm going to put on the mind of Christ, what I let into my eyes and into my ears and what comes out my mouth is good evidence of what's going into my heart, what I do with my hands, where I go with my feet. You know, people say we can go anywhere for Jesus. Well, yes, but no, you're supposed to be a testimony. I know about you, but I'm the heading to a wedding feast and I know I'm thankful that God keeps me in a white robe or it keeps me in a white gown. But you know what, inclosing right, all right, or do you want to go like this? Yeah, God'll clean it up later. All right, girls, who wants to go to their wedding in this beautiful dress without the markings? Well, my question to myself, when I see this, and I've used this illustration for other types of things and banquets, the question I have to ask myself is, if I'm real what I want to stand before God like this when I know God says I want you to come like that? I'm thankful that, though, when I do get spots, I can get it cleaned, but I don't take it to the cleaners, I take it to Christ, who washes me with the blood of Christ. So again it's an illustration. But again we need to think about that, because you would not dare go to your wedding dress like this. You would. Few would fight to keep this as clean as you could. My question is is, now that God has cleaned you up from the inside, make sure the outside in the inside match. Again, it's easy to make the outside look good, and that's what Jesus mentioned when he deals with the Pharisees and stuff. Outside clean, inside dirty. But I remind you, brothers and sisters, God wants us to wash it up from the inside and on the outside should match, because we can't send mixed messages and you can send mixed messages both ways. In closing, okay, I love my parents, but I don't know obey my parents. How does that work? It doesn't if you don't do what they've asked you to do. Jesus says be my disciples, and any sells us if you love me, you'll keep my commandments. What what is that? That's he's telling us that we need to follow after his directions so we don't have to be dirty and spotted. But he already knew that when we got dirty and spotted, he would wash us. That's where you realize how loving and merciful and kind God is. But don't take that for granted and think, well, just because you'll clean me up, I can just go jump through to mud. Doesn't work that way. Neither does it work that way in our relationships. If we try to fix all the relationships and make them look good this way, but we don't, we don't get it right this way, it'll never work, because we really don't know how to submit, we really don't know how to love, we don't know how to forgive, we don't know how to move on, we don't know how to how to again do life together. We're broken people, but we have a God that takes brokenness and does great things with it. And that's why, again, like brother Denny said, like that Kevin, brother Kevin said the same thing. You know, we're all you're all here not by accident. Come from different backgrounds, different walks of life, different purposes, had different stories, but yet we have one thing in the same Jesus right, but I'll believe that Jesus died for my sins. I'm a sinner and I deserve hell. I deserve separation from God, and because of that I can't stand before a righteous God. So, therefore, God, I drop to my knees and I surrender to you. Save me, Lord. I know I can't do this on my own and I can't do life on my I can't get to heaven on my loan. I can't do this life on...

...my own either. I need you. And then he gave us, the church, the purpose to help each other as we do life together. Let's do life together, but let's do it the way God designed. As we continue working through the book of Colossians. Again, practical application, gang. I love the way. Again, God gives us our theology, but then God says, okay, now I want you to get practical. Wives submit to your husband's husband's love. Your wives, children obey your parents, bond slaves to your employer, are your master. Master. Just remember the way you treat your servants, because one day you're all going to stand before me and Oh, you will give an account. You will give an account, not as not don't do it as man pleasers, but do it as unto the Lord. We got to keep that perspective right and, let's face it, it's hard, very hard. Brother Kevin, Yep, I'll pray and brother Kevin will close. Again, thank you for your time, those online for listening watching. I want you to again go to God's word this afternoon and look at what it says again for yourself. For Yourself. Let's pray. Father, God in Heaven, we thank you that you are a good and a great God, and you do, Lord, you you want the best for us and again, your plans from the beginning, where the garden of Eden, man and woman are creating a a family and taking care of a beautiful place, and yet man chose to sin. We we stepped away from you, God, and since then the world is spiraling out of control. If we go to scripture, it says it and it's going to get worse. But we can have confidence, Lord, as we study the book of Colloshans and as we realize that even people will come and try to get us to go backwards or to doubt what your word says, God, we need to encourage each other to look heavenward, to look up and to live in a way that follows the teaching of Christ, the the word of God, as are as our compass for life. And Lord, when we do that, Lord, even though we don't understand it sometimes, or even though we feel that the world's going to think we're weird or it's not right because it doesn't fall into their framework. God, they want to cancel you out of everything. And God, we're here to stand up and not fight the world, but to stand up and to be a light in a dark place and say we will not bow down to any other than Jesus. God, help us to do that. Help us to encourage each other to do that, as we battle with the world, the flesh and the devil every day of our lives, and it's about all. We can't win on our own, but you will give us the victory. We have those promises, God, and we stand on them today, in Jesus name, we pray him and thank you. There we go. Hey, thank you so much. Hey, worship team, would you come up as we close our service? Aundrey all over the place. That's what happens when you always preaching through messages that use clothing illustrations, putting on and putting off. Once you come on up and close us out, would you stand as we close and seeing this one again as transition, and thank pastor Tony for sharing with us. He illustrates so greatly, I think, what a lot of these relational principles share like, regardless of our earthly relationship and ships, right, regardless of who your boss is, regardless as if you're married. How many of you have changed jobs in your lifetime? Yeah, everybody has, right, we've all have different employment situations, and what God is showing us is that there's there's...

...a relational part that goes beyond the what you're dealing with, like in your relationship today, you know, like just because your boss from five years ago isn't your boss today, doesn't mean that you don't respect him or love him or serve him or or work with her or you know what I'm saying, like there's a relationship that God has created that is bigger than your immediate relational situations. So, like Pastor Tony, he is not my youth pastor anymore, but yet he has chosen to still love me and port me and pray for me, and I still continue to learn and submit and love and respect and all of those things relationally to him as well, and I think we can do the same in our relationships. So I hope that has come through today. After this song, then we'll go to long's park and I will enjoy a great time, a fellowship together and lots of young wood. Thanks so much for being here today.

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